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Thanks for tuning in to Heartrepreneur radio.  I have a special guest named Valerie Herald.  She helps people who feel like that don’t fit in and are craving to be their fun, authentic self.  I am excited about this because I felt like I used to live that way.  Not being authentic.  Her process is the only guaranteed way to live life on your own terms.  I have the expert here.   She not only has a process, she guarantees the process.  She has been there and done that and she develops a message using energy and soul coaching.  She focuses on teaching you actionable steps and demonstrates how you can apply those to your life now.  That is what we want here.  No matter what they say, what you see or what you hear, its times to be you.  Crazy, fun, authentic, and YOU.  I love all of that.  Thank you and welcome to the show.

Valerie:  Thank you for having me.

Terri:  What is your story and what was going on for you?  How did you make the shift for yourself?

Valerie:  It’s been gradual over the years.  The most reason was I had an injury about 6 and half years ago.  I started seeing a pattern in my life with these moments that you come down to your darkest days.  You think, what am I gonna do?  How am I going to get out of this?  The message I received was the answer was within.  I realized I have been looking outside of myself to others to tell me how to live.  That wasn’t working.  I hit on the head told me it wasn’t working.  Then I started to find a new way.  I found myself and claim myself and started to live for me instead of other people.

Terri:  Wow that is awesome.  What do you think this is?  Why so many of us are not being authentic?  I remember feeling like I really wanted to be authentic and I just felt like I couldn’t.  What’s going on?

Valerie:  Different things, it might be a trauma or abuse we had.  We get put into a victim situation where we were powerless.  We expected other people to be that power for us.  We tend to live our lives based on the past.  What happened in the past is dictating how we live now.  Most of the time, we are reacting to life instead of creating it.  It takes away our living now and being ourselves now.  Another thing is that growing up in society we have had people telling us all of our lives that you need to do this and you need to be that.  We internally take on those messages and we feel like we have to be that.  It’s about returning that power back to ourselves.  We realize that what was told to us, is not the way it really is.  It comes back to that higher self within us and starting to listen to that.  The noise of the world can be so loud.  It’s coming back to hearing that tiny voice.  Until we get it stronger with in us.

Terri:  Can you give us a tip or two that can make us stronger and allow us to be more authentic?

Valerie:  Sure, I always say that we get signs all of the time whether we are being aligned with who we are or not.  Usually things pop onto your radar and when it shows up you think, it’s just not quite right.  Make one small change to create something different.  We have patterns and we are responding to situation the same time every time it shows up.  When the situation presents itself, just choose something different.  Instead of arguing back, you choose not to respond.  Or find a way to laugh at a situation instead of getting super upset and crying about it.  Just being playful with it and trying to find that different path.

Terri:  I like that.  Is there a way that we can tell am I truly being authentic?  Is there a way someone can know that and sense it?

Valerie:  Yeah, physically it’s the quickest way to know if you are not aligned.  It will show up in the gut.  You will feel like it’s a battle going on in there.  Twisting around, digestive problems and anxiety in many ways.  That is what I teach first.  Tuning into your physical self.  It might be a situation where someone is telling you what to do and if you tune in, pay attention to how you are responding to them.  You will know if they are in alignment with you or not.

Terri:  Great advice.  I think sometimes people get signs and there are not paying attention.  What was happening for me is I am an energy bubble and a big personality and I was working in corporate America and I just wasn’t supposed to be any of that.  I was getting stressed, gaining weight, losing my hair, every sign was there of not being authentic.  When I finally quit, everything changed.  I became me.  I dressed the way I wanted.  Every single thing changed including my health.  If someone wants just one tip on something they can do today or tomorrow that will allow them to express their personality what would you tell them?

Valerie:  Think about that one thing you always wanted to do but were afraid to do it.  Like it’s been calling you.  Like writing an article, something that has been scary to put out there, or even confronting a loved one to create a new relationship.  Just do it.  Just grab it and go for it.  Just know that there is a part of you that knows that this is the step you need to take.  Trust that you have the knowledge and skills.  You can do it.  It’s just that initial step.  It’s a new step.  Just know you don’t have to choose the right way every way every single time.  There is no right or wrong way.  It’s about choosing a different way.  Just try it out.  It’s not about committing to doing something the same way everyway every single time and finding that perfect way.

Terri:  Great advice.  Any other quick tips or pointers you want to say?

Valerie:  I just want people to pay more attention to taking ownership in your life.  I did an exercise for myself for a while where I set an intention every day.  It puts you in a creation situation.  Where you are claiming that you are going to create this particular thing in your life and then you can take the steps to do it.  Whatever it is that you are wanting to change or create in your life, I suggest starting with that intention for the day and letting the opportunity show up that you take action on to create that in your own life.  One of them might be loving yourself more today than you have ever done before.  Having an intention like that and just let that set the tone for your day.  Then as you go about your day, you can say hey is this action creating more love in my life today or not.  It gives you a little more focus and puts you in a creation mode rather than reacting.

Terri:  Brilliant.  Great tip.  Before we go, how can people get in touch with you to learn more and bring out more of their authenticity?

Valerie:  ValerieHerald. com Facebook at enersoul  Val@ValerieHerald.com  Feel free to ask me questions about any particular thing.  I will help you walk through that.

Terri:  Thank you for being here, I appreciate you.  Everybody live as a Heartrepreneur, you will be a lot happier when you do.  Thanks for joining me today Valerie.

Valerie:  Thanks for having me.

Here we are for another episode for Heartreprenuer radio.  I am having so much fun bringing you people that I have met who have interesting ideas, agendas and have a passion for doing what they love.  Recently, I met a woman that just resonated with me.  Her name is Anna Leutbecker and she works full time as a client relationship manager.  She plans, sponsors with their retirement plans.  She is also involved with a direct sales company called Kyani.  This is what resonated with me about Anna.  She has a passion.  She wants to help people achieve a healthier version of themselves.  She shares the triangle of health.  Her goal is to transition from the corporate world to direct sales full time.  She recently joined the Polka Dot Power House.  It’s a wonderful way to help people to grow and allow her to increase her circle of influence.  Anna also has a passion in mental health and is trying to figure out ways to get involved and to help people who are struggling with mental health.  Making sure they get the proper care and treatment.  I brought her here and would like to introduce her.

Welcome to the show Anna.

Terri:  I am excited about you for a lot of reasons but mostly because of your mission.  How did you get into what you are doing and what is your mission?

Anna:  I have done a lot of direct sales.  I was approached with Kyani a couple years ago.  I started taking the product but wasn’t sure about getting into the business.  I started taking the product and I used to get chronic headaches two to three times a week.  Every once in awhile they would be migraine like.  After about 6 or 7 months after starting to take the product the triangle of health, I look back and thought wow, I haven’t’ had a headache.  That was the only thing that changed.  I hadn’t taken ibuprofen or changed my diet, so this was a big win for me.  That is when I decided there is something here.  I decided to do something different with this company and this product.

Terri:  I know so many people who get migraines and to know there is something out there, that is awesome.  You mentioned something we first talked, triangle of health.  What does that mean?

Anna:   Kyani has created three unique products.  They are so unique in the health and wellness industry.  When we think about nutritional supplements, pills, taking this and that, and measure it, this product is unique because its food and plant based, a 100% natural.  They have broken it down to three products:  First one is Sunrise.  We take this in the morning.  We need a product with water and we need a product that will help absorb the nutrients.  The bio availability is 97 to 100%.  Which to me is fascinating because our body is 70% water, we have that product that is geared to the water soluble parts of our body. The next product is Sunset, the next is Nitro.

Terri:  That is really smart.  People sometimes forget, which is interesting that our bodies are water.  We are water.  Thanks for that reminder. What is your interests in the mental health area come from?

Anna:  Well, it’s something that is near and dear to my heart.  In 2012 I met my husband.  We got married in 2014 and he was diagnosed bipolar.  Marriage isn’t easy and it isn’t easy with a mental health component added to it.  For him, the disability and being the sole provider, it’s something I try to focus on is making sure he gets good care with the limited amount of resources provided by Medicare.   Making sure that he gets psychiatric help and counseling as well.

Terri:  I have recently had a client and a friend who people said that are acting weird or strange, or whatever and in both cases, it was nothing more than they were dealing with some depression.  Mental health issue in another case.  There is such a lack of understanding.  Do you agree with that?

Anna:  Even in his own family, the lack of compassion and empathy is boggling to me.  It’s something that I really work on and try to be compassionate and understanding.  Even when he goes down a path, I try to remind him that he may be making judgmental statements when he doesn’t’ like being judged.  He needs to keep himself even keeled.  He is not being judgmental.

Terri:  So what do you do for yourself?  If you are in a situation with someone who has health issues, how do you handle yourself, keep yourself up, and keep yourself moving forward, what do you do for Anna?

Anna:  That is something I have been working on a lot more.  For the first part of our marriage, it was all about him.  Recently, I have been seeing a counselor and going to networking events who I have made friends with.  Kudos to you for the Polka Dot Powerhouse.  I never thought I would be part of something of that caliber.  I love the positive upbeat environment.  I have that positive influence with the other people.

Terri:  It has really made a difference to me.  It’s amazing how much love and light there can be with a group of people who can lift each other up and help each other in their businesses.  Such a blessing.  I am really glad you are a part of that.  Ideally, we know you want to leave corporate and there are many who have not yet transitioned, what would help them/you to move forward and to do what I hear is really your passion, which is Kyani and helping people have great health.  Also, doing what you like to help educating and make the world understand mental illness and how to deal with it.  What will help you move forward?

Anna:  I have been focusing on personal growth and development.  I think a lot of people over look that and I have said to you before our call, right now I am completely out of my comfort zone and I am doing it and am grateful for it.  The other thing I am starting to work on, now that I have that personal growth, I am starting to get more comfortable and the monkey brain is starting to take action.  Taking action is the part that right now, I need to focus on.  That is something that a lot of us need to do.

Terri:  Slow and steady wins the race.  Just a reminder to everyone, baby step it forward it.  I just want to honor you.  I love when someone comes on the show and is vulnerable and transparent and says its out of their comfort zone.  And yet they step forward and do it anyway.  That is a sign that you will achieve your goal.  I also want to tell you that you knocked it out of the park.  It was awesome having you.  How can people connect with you?

Anna:  My website is Ahealthieryou.Kyani.net   My phone is 919-749-1509 I am also on LinkedIn as Anna Leutbecker.  I also have a Facebook Anna Leutbecker.

Terri:  If anyone is dealing with mental illness and wants to have greater health.  If you have migraines, she is your go to gal.  She is generous and will share a sample with you.  I have shared it at events that she has sponsored, and there has been amazing feedback.  Every person I know has said, wow, this product has helped.  It’s a great product.  Thanks for being a guest today at Heartrepreneur radio.

I am so excited to introduce my guest.  I got introduced to him only a few months ago and it feels like I have known him for a long time.  I instantly could feel his light just radiating.  I could feel how much he was willing to give and share and contribute to others.  I was so attracted to his being.  I am so excited that he has agreed to be my guest today.

Jason Freeman equips people to do their imperfect best.  I love those words.  In their professional and personal lives.  He is a bravery coach and inspirational speaker.  He inspires people to get off of the sidelines of their lives and do their imperfect best.  One of the expressions I say all of the time is that we are all perfect with our imperfections.  So it’s so beautiful to have a guest who gets my philosophy.  Welcome Jason.

Jason:  Thanks for having me today.

Terri:  I thought we could begin with your story and then your why as to what you are doing.

Jason:  When I was born, I lost a little oxygen when I was little and developed a speech impediment also some coordination.  For years, I was down about them.  I then realized that all I had to do was my imperfect best to move forward and my outlook on life has transformed and so I want to share that with other people that whatever their problem is, that change can happen.

Terri:  I love this because as you shifted and accepted imperfection is perfect, you were able to not only amp up your life and the quality of your life, but now you can make an impact on others, yes?

Jason:  Definitely.

Terri:  When you speak and when you are out there as a bravery coach, who do you like to speak to and what is the big message.

Jason:  I love to speak to people who are willing to make a change in their lives.  The big message is not to sit on the sidelines and keep planning to add one day and take small imperfect steps to gain momentum in the direction in the way you want to do.

Terri:  Beautiful.  I was thinking about this when I was introducing you.  You are a bravery coach.  I have trained over 5000 coaches in my training school.  I have an email of 25,000 coaches, I have never in all of my experience meet anyone who has come across my path and said they were a bravery coach.  How did you come up with that?

Jason:  I came up with it because I realized that bravery is where people most need to listen to themselves.  There are no excuses.  Why things are possible and it takes true bravery to cut through the excuses day after day and take the smallest steps forward.

Terri:  Beautiful.  I heard somebody say something and I thought about you.  They said, I always say yes, even if I am scared.  Even if I don’t know how or think I am going to fumble or mess it up.  I always go ahead and say yes. It made me think of you.  Can you relate?

Jason:  I think it’s important to say yes to the things we really want to do in life.  But by the same token, I firmly believe we need to be clear on what we don’t want to do in life and say no to going down those paths.

Terri:  Thank you for that.  Say yes to the stuff that is juicy and exciting and challenges us, and then also have your clear boundaries on what doesn’t feel good or right.  Perfect.  If someone is tuning in and they are not so happy with their business or their life.  What is the best piece of advice you can give them in this moment.

Jason:  Life is about change.  That change is possible.  Their unhappiness isn’t permanent.  They have frustrating circumstances and they are not permanent.  They just need to the very next right thing.  I think so often we look at the five year picture of whatever, and we get really overwhelmed.

Terri:  What great advice.  It has been my experience too.  Something could seem like its going wrong or its overwhelming, and just that shift in my mindset, sometimes it’s just forcing a smile on my face and all of the sudden it changes.  Did you ever notice that with just smiling or changing your physical state?

Jason:  oh, yes, for sure.  Sometimes just taking a deep breath can be so powerful for changing.  Yeah, smiling.

Terri:  One of the things I will say about you is I can tell when I first met you, you had a sparkle in your eyes and a huge smile on your face.  It was so inviting and welcoming.  Do you intentionally say you are going to smile and welcome people?  How does that come to be?

Jason:  I realize increasingly I am interested in people and all the variations.  My human story is I just want to meet people and be with them and absorb their ideas.  I guess that makes me naturally welcoming.

Terri:  I believe that is key.  We can teach people a lot of skills and tell them what to say, I think the ability to be naturally welcoming.  I love those words, really brings people into our life and experience.  I am grateful you came into my life and my experience.  I know listeners are going to want to connect with you.  My only bravery coach I have ever met.  You are an inspiration and you really understand that imperfection is absolutely perfect.  How can people connect with you?

Jason:  JasonWFreeman.com is my website.

Terri:  Freeman, isn’t that interesting.  Jason thank you so much for being my guest.  I hope you feel a giant hug from me. I encourage my listeners to reach out to Jason.  He is truly one of the most extraordinary human beings that I have had the honor of meeting.

Jason:  It was a pleasure, Terry thank you so much.