In the wake of the Me Too Movement, more women have gotten better at balancing career and home life. Dorothy Kuhn discusses the implications of this trend among powerful women with families. With her expert consulting services, Dorothy has helpes the go-getter women who are tired of not being respected simply because of thier gender. Be seen, heard, HIRED and PROMOTED.
Dorothy Kuhn has been a guest expert on TV, international radio, and podcasts. She helps entrepreneurs, professionals and community leaders stand out and lead effectively. Having graduated in Physics and Math, she won her first professional position knowing more about quantum mechanics than anyone else. But in spite of her solid education and smart, friendly ways, Dorothy struggled to lead in a way that others wanted to follow. What was the problem? Was it because she was a powerful, well-educated woman with a lot of potential?
What opened the door for Dorothy’s career advancement was her background in science, church and community service, plus her eye for patterns and love of simple solutions. She was honored to be Texas Instruments’ representative to Carnegie Mellon University, where she co-authored the industry standard in Systems Engineering with the Department of Defense, and served as Product Manager for its assessment method. She spearheaded the turn-around of select military projects back at Texas Instruments, leading with focus, purpose and fun. So whenever you’re in doubt, just take one look at Dorothy’s impressive career – and always remember that gender is not a barrier to greatness.
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Tips For Women Entrepreneurs On Balancing Career And Home Life With Dorothy Kuhn
I have with me Dorothy Kuhn. The world is changing for women. Yes, it is the Me Too Movement and more. Competition is driving companies to be more connected to their customers with evidence in building a workforce that reflects companies’ consumer base pay off. Dorothy has quite a background. She has a very successful career in many different areas. She’s going to talk about how you can have the career you want, the advancement you want, and what I think is really important is that you can still have a home life. Dorothy, welcome to Heartrepreneur Radio.
It is a pleasure, Terri, to be with you.
I’m excited to be with you. The world is changing and changing fast, but before we get there, what’s a little bit of your background and what led you to do what you do now?
I grew up a Catholic kid and then I became geeky. I studied physics and math in undergraduate school. I got my first job because I’m in more quantum mechanics than anybody else, really a geek at heart. As much as I would try in my early days to do my work and do it well, and I was great at that, it wasn’t clear to me what it took to advance in my career. From that geeky place, I could continue an analysis forever, the doing piece of my professional work, or I can move into management. I thought, “I’m geeky but there are a whole lot geekier people than me and I’m not going to be able to compete with them. I need to go to management.” Honestly, I don’t want to have some personal presence. I didn’t realize in those early days that I had “jump” stenciled all over my forehead. I couldn’t see it, but everybody else could.
How did you discover your real passion?
My passion for this business is giving back passion. I’ve retired from a long and successful career. Looking back, there are things that had I known in my twenties and 30s, instead of my 40s and 50s, would’ve made a huge difference in the trajectory of my career and let me have a better home life, too.
One of the things that appealed to me and attracted me to you is a lot of people talk about bettering your careers, getting more fulfillment, getting the promotions, and all of those things. The problem is most people talk at the balance of the home life. Why is that so important and what’s happening in the world today from your vantage point?
For us as women, we want to have a good home life. Not that men don’t, they certainly do, too. One of the things that holds us back and a lot of people this way is that we want to move forward. Part of us wants to move forward and part of us is afraid that it’s going to ditch something else that’s important in our life. Oftentimes, that’s our home life and we don’t want to ditch that. We want to be good for our spouses, for our kids, for our extended family, and all the kinds of things that make life worth living.
Is there a tip or something that you can give people so that they can start to create that balance?
A couple of things that is helpful, and I was totally awful with this when I was young, one is to develop some practices to get calm. I was like A-type and that’s wonderful, but I didn’t have a counterpoint in my day of relaxing and settling in and getting into a restorative energetic, so to speak. The flip side of or the compliment to that is, as you move up in an organization, the critical skill is to be able to decide decisively. Distinguishes people who are okay managers from people who can build a career with momentum is the ability to make quality decisions at speed.
Quality decisions at speed. That is so true. What seems to be a thing that happens and keeps people stuck in that nation that I call procrastination. What’s going on? What is that in your vantage point? What do you think is going on for people?
In order to be able to move up a level and go home at a reasonable hour and on time, it’s important to be able to build some skill at your current level that you’re going to need moving up. Oftentimes, that’s decisioning skill. That’s understanding what your peers need at next level up. One of the things that I teach women in corporate careers is how to get a sense of that because a lot of folks will tend to think that they need to be ready to move up. You are never going to be ready because you don’t know exactly what’s going to happen at that next level, but you can learn enough. I teach them what’s enough and how to get enough of it so that you’re ready for that next level.
Who ideally do you work with? I always love to know who people like to work with best and who they help the most so that if we have a Heartrepreneur, they know how to connect with you.
To Heartrepreneurs and everyone in general, I always say, “Lead with love, have a whole lot of power coming right behind it, and to fuel that love.” Dr. King was famous for saying, “Love without a power is sentimental and weak, and power without love is corrupt.” What people need is to be able to have that balance and move forward in confidence.
I know that sometimes when people hear power, particularly women, they’re almost afraid, “I don’t want to have power. I don’t want to seem like I have power.” Can you address the way that you view power?
I address it exactly the way that Stanford MBAs get taught this stuff. A lot of what I teach is the stuff that you’d have to spend two years and $100,000 at Stanford or Harvard to learn. It is that people have this love-hate relationship often with power because they see power misused. One of the things that I teach people is how to tell that you’re using power well, where that energy comes from, what the heart place that it comes from, what the headspace that it comes from, and how to tell if you’re leading with love and fueling it with power, rather than the other way around, which is nefarious.
What do you think, in your view, is happening that there is so much of the following and look-alike and me too and not even really figuring out what people want to do in their careers or their lives. What’s going on in the world today?
That is a question that goes to the heart of authenticity. One of the things that I teach is how to clean up those. From growing up in our childhood, we all have somebody said something about us and we thought we weren’t good enough, and all the normal stuff of growing up in life. I have to clean up those pieces a layer at a time. That’s a continual skill. You get to the point that somebody can express an opinion and you’re so grounded in your loving authenticity. If you can say, “I don’t give up, fill in the blank.”
I use three words. I think you’ll relate to them. I always talk about transparency, integrity, and authenticity. That’s what we need. We need to be who we are. Allow our spirit to shine through. I love what you have to say. I love who you are in world and the way you show up in the world. It’s what attracted me to you. How can people connect with you and find out more about you? I have a feeling that there’s a lot of layers here and I’m suggesting to everyone that they get to know you. There’s so much that you can do with them and for them because you are truly a Heartrepreneur.
They can get in touch with me at DorothyKuhn.com/gift.
Dorothy, what final word of wisdom do you want people to take away and remember from our time?
I want them to know that you are enough. You are perfect the way you are. Should you choose to be a member of my tribe, I give away a lot of great content and you do get a lot of stuff. The people I work with closely get to accelerate how they stepped into that level of authenticity. That calms your soul and lets you feel and experience that day-to-day confidence. That is priceless.
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I love that you said you are not perfect the way you are, but authenticity. In the very beginning of my career, I didn’t know what that was and I tried to fit in with the corporate America boys club. I really did. I drink scotch and smoke cigars because I thought that I had to. I really did. If someone can help you live an authentic life and have that life from a confident place, it literally is life changing. It changed everything. Dorothy, thank you so much for being a guest here at Heartrepreneur Radio.
It’s a pleasure to be with you Terri. All the best.
Thank you so much. For the audience, first of all, get your gift. Second of all, if you like the show, we love your reviews. It really means a lot and it helps the show. If you would share, let people know about the show. Share Dorothy’s episode, we would just love that. Thank you for being here with us at Heartrepreneur Radio.
About Dorothy Kuhn
★ Executives and senior management who want technology to serve the business need, run smoothly and deliver reliably.
★ Industries served: Military, Telecom, Mortgage, Stock Clearing, Financial, Distribution.
★ Goal-oriented influencer and problem-solver; attention to detail.
★ Successful with worldwide, virtual as well as local teams.
► WHAT DO I DO FOR YOU?
★ Manage and deliver complex technology projects
★ Communicate project expectations to project team members and stakeholders in a timely and clear manner
★ Establish and maintain strong relationships with stakeholders and senior management
★ Estimate resources and participants to achieve project goals including budget proposals and changes. Create, track and forecast project budgets
★ With urgency, runs a straightforward and predictable process that meets priorities
★ Creative thinker who resolves conflicts & facilitates decision-making
★ Set and manage expectations with team members and stakeholders
★ Identify and manage project dependencies, critical path
★ Plan and schedule project timelines, milestones
★ Manage project risks, including contingency plans.
★ Report and present progress, issues & solutions, risks & contingency plans
★ Monitor progress, burn rate; initiates corrective action
★ Manages change control, configuration management
► TEAM DEVELOPMENT FOCUS:
★ Results and Process Oriented
★ Mentors, advises, trains, and hires as needed
★ Career Advancement Mentor