The aftermath of addiction can be brutal. Oftentimes, the only reason that recovering addicts can latch unto are coaches who can captivate their clients with their own raw vulnerability. There are highs and lows of transforming one’s ashes into sobriety, and Michael Arnold, a hurricane of happiness, knows the pain inside and out. She went through her own personal transformation with brutal alcohol addiction that was partnered with fear of judgment, acceptance and identity loss. Now, Michael lives a beautiful, healthy life in sobriety and says she truly knows what it’s like to feel alive, free and to be yourself without apologies.
Her story proves that it is possible to make the shift happen, to go from emptiness to empowerment in sobriety. Michael tackles how you, too, can use movement and mindset revolution to instill healthier habits in life. Create your miracle. As your coach and biggest supporter and believer, Michael Arnold will guide you in your quest to uncover what is keeping you stuck, and help you take bold actions out of that suffocating abyss and into freedom. She will bring awareness to your day-to-day actions and thought process, educate you on healthy habit change, all while serving you tough love with love. Michael considers it her life’s purpose to inspire, empower, and support women and men alike in living their best lives. It’s time to confront your fears, excuses, and silent struggles. It’s time to be the best version of yourself.
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Recovering From Alcohol Addiction: From Emptiness To Empowerment with Michael Arnold
I have a special guest with me. I have Michael Arnold who is a hurricane of happiness. She went through her own personal transformation with brutal alcohol addiction that was partnered with fear of judgment, acceptance and identity loss. Michael captivates her clients with her own vulnerability by being raw and real about highs and lows of evolving, transforming and sobriety. She now lives a beautiful, healthy life in sobriety and she says she truly knows what it’s like to feel alive, free and to be unapologetically yourself from the inside out. It’s her passion to inspire and support people to make shift happen and go from empty to empowered in sobriety. Michael, welcome to Heartrepreneur Radio.
Thank you so much for having me, Terri.
What attracted me initially was the words hurricane of happiness. Here at Heartrepreneur, we spread happiness and we share happiness. Each of us has a unique story. Tell us a little about your story and then we’ll get into some questions.
I lived most of my adult life riddled with this fear. I made a lot behind alcohol and drugs. When I realized that my problem was bigger than I could handle on my own, I was ready to ask for help. As soon as I asked for help is when the shame and the embarrassment came in to play. As soon as I decided to make that choice to not be killing myself every day behind addiction, I then had to face the choices of understanding that I am an alcoholic and that I do have an addiction. Now in sobriety, I’m facing a whole new fear, the fear of acceptance. Are people going to want to hang out with me because I’m sober? Am I going to find love? It’s like new level, new devil from addiction to sobriety.
What I had found in sobriety was to embrace everything that I had numbed out for most of my life. Through my evolution in sobriety, being able to completely and fully accept who I am, to not hide emotions, to not hide anymore, and it’s been a real blessing. It’s something that I cared so much. I cannot wait to continue to share this experience, strength, and hope with all of those other people that are getting into sobriety and then they don’t know how to live and how to accept this new way of life.
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Everyone has some form of addiction. Whether it’s a more blatant one like drugs or alcohol or we’re addicted to a narcissist or we’re a narcissist our self or we’re addicted to certain behaviors or certain beliefs, all of us have some form of addiction and it’s our Kryptonite. We just have these addictions. I want to take a moment and celebrate you and honor you for making the transformation and for being sober. I congratulate you for that. That’s huge.
Thank you so much.
You’re welcome. You definitely deserve that. Why do you think and why in your experience do people walk around, whether it’s with alcohol or something else, numbing themselves? What is it that causes people not to live full out?
In my experience, it is that fear of judgment, that fear of acceptance, that fear of failure. It’s much easier for many people to accept what is instead of allow themselves the chance to have what they want because it can be scary. A lot of times people would rather stay swimming in the yuckiness, swimming in their own yuck than be able to come alive. It’s a big thing, it’s a big deal I noticed, the fear of judgment and that fear of failure. It’s way easier to stay where you’re at in misery than to give yourself that chance.
It’s sad and I see people doing it all the time in all different ways, whether they’re hiding behind masks or they are doing something like using drugs or alcohol. They’re totally afraid to be truly seen. We always talk about at Heartrepreneur authenticity, integrity, and transparency. I always say to people, “Just be you be you. Just be whoever you are.” You talk about unapologetically being yourself from the inside out. What does that mean to you?
For me, it’s to not hide. I hid for so long because I didn’t want people to see I’m high energy. I told you like a hurricane of happiness. For me now, I’m unapologetic for only my energy, only my bubbliness, owning who Michael Arnold is because that is who I am. I always tell people that is your birthright so own who you are, and to be able to be unapologetic about it. It means you are that confident. For me, unapologetic is also loving myself enough to know that no matter what I love myself for everything that I am, the right people will be in my life and then the others will leave.
It was about 25 years ago when I decided to really fall in love with myself. I went through this major transition of not looking for love on the outside, embracing love on the inside and loving myself no matter what. There were a lot of people in my life experience that either I intentionally have fall off or just fell off who weren’t that excited about me falling in love with me. Have you ever found anything like that?
Absolutely, it’s probably something I deal with even on a weekly basis. They’re not comfortable with themselves. It’s something that I noticed as I have been able to love and embrace everything that I am. The people that fall off are the ones that thought I needed them, because I sought validation. I looked outward. For people to see that I’m very comfortable and I’m very confident in whom I am, whoever comes into my life you’re an asset, you’re not a liability. People get turned off by the fact because I also think that they see something in me that they desperately want and it’s something that I desperately want them to have.
Is it true that they have to want it and it has to be an internally driven, “I really want this,” or can you help people who aren’t sure that they really want it?
With my experience, you have to want it. It’s one of those things like if you’re wishy, if you’re one foot in and one foot out, you can’t play full out. You have to get desperate enough. You have to reset pain points to be like, “I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired,” and then that’s when that fire ignites. Motivation comes from within. I can help keep that fire lit but you have to want it yourself. Nobody else can do it for you, like with my sobriety as I look at it. Nobody else could make that decision but me. That’s when you know when you make that decision; you are doing it for the entire right reasons and not for anybody else.
I’m going to equate it to something, try this on and tell me what you think. I have a really good friend who lost weight and looked fabulous. She dropped 80 pounds, looked amazing, and gained the weight back and even probably more than that pretty quickly, almost as quickly as she lost it. I said to her one day, “What motivated you to take the pounds off?” She said, “I wasn’t motivated to do it at all, but the gentleman that I was living with kept on me about weight. I figured I’d better get it off because it was annoying him, and I took it off because it was annoying him.” I thought, “I wonder if that’s why she gained it back.” What do you think about that?
That makes my heart hurt. It’s so true. She didn’t do it for her. She put it back on because it didn’t resonate with her. It was for somebody else. If it’s for somebody else, it can’t be sustained.
That’s exactly what I see, so thank you for that. That’s what makes sense to me, it comes from within. We’re driven from within. If somebody shows up, raises their hand and says, “Michael, I’m ready. I’m ready to get rid of whatever an addiction is.” That can be different for all of us. It could be an addiction of needing people to compliment us. There could be almost any addiction that we have. If somebody shows up and they want to make that shift, give us one or two quick pointers of things that they can keep in mind.
The first couple of things I have them keep in mind is when they’re like, “Michael, I want this for me.” I have them do a simple exercise. I have them say, “Ask yourself every single day, why is it that you want this so badly?” I had everybody bring awareness to their situation. When they want to change, I say, “Ask yourself what got you here?” I have them being able to implement a motivating factor. Motivating factors are usually in themselves or why they want to do it. I have them look at how was their life so unmanageable before that they got them to this point, so that they really feel that prison. When they decide to make the change, I want them to feel that prison of how bad it was. Have that awareness, create that motivating factor so that they don’t ever want to go back there and then be able to proceed forward and say, “This is exactly why I’m here.”
You’ve given us lots and lots of value. How can people get connected with you, stay on the journey with you?
Should people want to reach out to me, visit my website at MichaelArnoldCoaching.com. That’s where you’ll find everything about me, about working with me, about scheduling calls with me. I would definitely always bet that site is there. It’s not going anywhere.
It has been a delight to have you. I celebrate you not only for becoming sober, staying sober, but now helping others to do the same.
Thank you so much, Terri. It has been such an honor to be able to speak with you.
Thank you again. For the readers, thank you. As I told you, subscribe to the show so you don’t miss episodes. You might have missed Michael Arnold, connect with her. It’s MichaelArnoldCoaching.com. If you haven’t yet found your way to our Facebook group, which is Heartrepreneurs With Terri Levine, jump on in there. We give you an opportunity to introduce yourself every few days. We give you an opportunity to either share your Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, or maybe a link about yourself. That’s how you can get to know a couple of thousand other Heartrepreneurs. Thanks again for tuning in here at Heartrepreneur Radio.
About Michael Arnold
Michael Arnold is a hurricane of happiness. She went through her own personal transformation with brutal alcohol addiction that was partnered with fear of judgment, acceptance and identity loss. Michael captivates her clients with her own vulnerability by being raw and real about highs and lows of evolving and transforming in sobriety. Michael now lives a beautiful, healthy life in sobriety. Michael can truly say she now knows what it is like to feel alive, free, and to be unapologetically yourself from the inside out. It is Michael’s passion to inspire and support people to make shift happen and go from empty to empowered in sobriety.