You can make an impact as a woman by not letting others get in your way to greatness. Speaker, author, and women empowerment leader Lora Cheadle shows how she levels her own playing field as a woman and a professional, explaining why she chose to become an attorney and a coach. Recognizing the different covering, labels, and roles people are putting on, her coaching approach is targeted towards revealing ourselves and identifying the roles and the scripts that we are playing out. Lora also touches on the importance of getting a coach, fitness and the role it plays in success, and the need to do something you truly love and flaunting it.
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Women Empowerment: Getting Back In Touch With Your Heart And Passion With Lora Cheadle
I have with me Lora Cheadle. She is a coach and she empowers women. Lora, welcome to our show.
Thank you so much for having me
Lora, tell me, why did you pick the field of women empowerment?
I’m a former corporate attorney. After practicing law in the corporate arena for about ten years, I realized how much women still needed to connect with each other in order to bring themselves up. Sure, we’re able to have any job now, but we were still not being viewed as equals. That’s why I left the legal space and came into the therapy, life coaching. I use a variety of different modalities, but it was all to empower women. Yes, we’re doing more, but we’re still not equal. Worse than that, we’re beating ourselves up for not doing more. That was what prompted that switch for me.
I was in the engineering field, so I had the same thing. I think that many reasons why men and women start their own businesses or their own companies because it’s not a level playing field out there. What kind of coaching do you do? Why does someone need a coach and what are some of the benefits of the coaching that you do?Fitness gets us out of our heads and gets us into our bodies. Click To Tweet
The kind of coaching that I do is targeted towards revealing yourself. As successful, powerful men or women, we wear a lot of different hats. We put on a lot of different covering. We have labels. We fill roles. We play out scripts and that’s great, but oftentimes it’s not allowing us to be who we are. After spending so many years in higher education doing what you’re told or as a young associate doing what you’re told, whatever it is, we lose touch with who we are inside. We lose touch with our heart, we lose touch with our passion. My coaching focuses on taking off those layers, realizing what’s a label, what’s the role, what’s the script that you’re playing out that is not who you are? The coaching enables you to see what it is you’re doing and then to get back in touch with your heart, your center, your passion and your drive so you can start living life from a fulfilled place, not from a place of always trying to do more, try harder, say the right thing, do the right thing, wear the right thing and be somebody who you’re not.
You also not only look at the peeling back of the layers and taking off some of that cultural layers that we wear, but you’re also into fitness. How does fitness play a role in success?
There are several different ways. First of all, when we are not achy, stiff and sore, when we feel good physically, we’re more clear mentally. Also, especially with women but for men as well, there’s such pressure to look a certain way. If we don’t look a certain way, we fall into that body shame. All of a sudden we start having our thoughts wrapped around something that doesn’t matter. We’re in a workplace and we’re worried about our thighs or the way that we look. That’s not what it’s about at all. The kind of fitness that I focus on is fitness for the sake of feeling good. It’s like when we were kids, we would play on the playground and we played because it felt good. We didn’t play because we wanted to have a flat belly and thin thighs. We played because it was fun. To me, fitness is our adult playtime. It gets us out of our heads and it gets us into our bodies, so then we can be free from all of those cultural hang-ups that we have to look a certain way in order to be successful. It gets us to realizing, our bodies are fun and we can play with them and feel good. We are free to succeed because we’re not worried about the way we look anymore.
It’s true. It’s not a have-to. It’s not something that so many people dread. I used to love playing softball. If someone said, “Let’s do a pickup softball game,” I would not be like, “I got to go work out.” We’d be like, “Let’s get some friends together and do some softball.” Maybe that’s another layer that you peel back and figure out how you liked to play and then make that into something. Because I do think if we’re more engaged with our playtime, that we would get fit quicker.
That’s what I talk about. I call it your fetish. Find your fetish. Do that thing that gets you excited. As a kid, I love to play on the monkey bars because it was fun. Not once did I think, “This is building my biceps and back.”
I’d like to get across the monkey bars where you’d put one knee over a bar and turn somersaults. I could spend an entire recess doing that and not even get ill. I would sit there over and over. That feeling of falling and coming right back up, that was a lot of fun. Give me some coaching success stories. What are some of your favorite success stories that you’ve had?
I have had so many success stories that might seem small on the surface, but they’re life-changing. Where people start dropping the expectations that were put upon them from their families. “You will get married and you will have 2.5 kids and you will go to college. People construct their entire lives based on a persona that, “You’re supposed to go to college and you’re supposed to get a corporate job. You’re supposed to get married and you’re supposed to live in the suburbs. You’re supposed to have kids.” All of a sudden people are in their 40s and they realize, “This isn’t the life that I wanted.” There’s nothing bad about it, but there’s nothing inherently good about it either. I’ve had many stories where people are able to keep their same life but make small changes within that, such as working three days a week instead of five days a week. Shifting their career slightly, it’s not that they’re “Wasting their education.” Instead of pursuing the legal practice, they change it into a consulting type of practice.
Instead of doing the full-blown engineering and, “I’m going to bust through the corporate ceiling, I’m going to do this,” it’s stepping back and maybe working for a smaller firm so they have more time to pursue cooking, which was always their passion in the first place, but they were told, “You’ll never make money doing that. Do something that’s worthwhile.” They can have their job, which provides the money and then they can have their passion, which is cooking. That’s where their joy, their connection, and the real living starts taking place.
I have had that thing. Before I found business, I was living that what I called a checkbox life. I checked this box, I got married, and I checked this. We got the big house and all these other things. In the end, if you’re not making an impact and you’re not making a difference, it doesn’t serve you. I was blessed that I got involved with direct sales at a young age. Not that the direct sale so much as in seeing a different lifestyle. When I left engineering, I was looking at all the people that were engineers 30 years down the road and 30 years down the road who owned their own business. I was like, “One set is definitely much happier.” I do feel like the standard success system is a success at all costs. You don’t realize how much we have to sacrifice along the way.
A lot of it is business-based, but a lot of it also is relationship-based. What kinds of relationships do you want in your life? People don’t ask themselves that. They just make assumptions about things and they assume everybody else around them is making those same assumptions and then people don’t have that kind of connection, joy, peace or satisfaction that is meaningful for them.To have the courage to ask somebody else for what you want, you have to ask yourself what it is you want. Click To Tweet
We have been trained somehow to accept relationship mediocrity. You don’t need to bring energy to it. Keep all your energy for making money. There is a balance that the relationship provides as far as getting you motivated to do your goals. That’s where they need it. How do people find out more about you and your services?
They can go to my website LoraCheadle.com. On my website, there is an opt-in for my free eBook called 15 Ways to FLAUNT! Today. That is not to be confused with my full book FLAUNT!: Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self. That’s coming out on November 5th. This is a teaser book with fifteen ideas that people can do to reveal their hearts.
How about you reveal one or two that will help us flaunt?
One of the most impactful ones is to ask for what you want. Before you can ask for what you want, you have to go inside and ask yourself, “What is it that I want?” To have the courage to ask somebody else.
You can find out more about Lora at www.LoraCheadle.com. Be sure you download her free offering for how to flaunt and then look for her book as well. I’m sure it will be on Amazon and other websites. Be sure to subscribe to our show and give us those five-star reviews. Connect with us on Facebook at #Heartrepreneurs with Terri Levine.
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About Lora Cheadle
Lora Cheadle, a corporate attorney turned international radio host, Life Choreographer® and author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, &Spiritual Self, has inspired hundreds of women to boldly reclaim their life and their legacy before it’s too late.
Using burlesque as the vehicle, she shows women how to metaphorically strip down, get emotionally and intellectually naked, reveal their brains, beauty and beliefs and develop an unshakable sense of Naked Self-Worth™ which is the ability to stand unflinchingly in one’s raw truth.
Her diverse background as a lawyer, hypnotherapist and fitness guru gives her the ability to spot the root cause of self-judgment, guilt or shame and zero in on solutions that keep women happy, healthy and burnout-free.
When not on stage, Lora can be found adventuring through the Rocky Mountains with her two sons or exploring the world with her husband.
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