The world tends to frown upon those who are not reaching for worldly success. That is why many of us find ourselves chasing what others want of us to achieve, forgetting who we are and what we truly want in the process. Tibor Nagy is all too familiar with this struggle. A former architect, Tibor found his true self after experiencing difficulties chasing a false definition of success. Now, having embarked his own personal development journey, he has become a mindset coach and founded Mindset Horizon. In this episode, Tibor takes us across his journey and imparts great wisdom about transforming to become our true selves and awakening our inner genius through mindset. Pursuing the passions we want in life is just a mindset away. Allow Tibor to guide you in overcoming the mind to transition in living your meaning life in this episode.
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Becoming Our True Selves Through Mindset Change With Tibor Nagy
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I have with me Tibor Nagy and he is a former architect. This is interesting to make a shift from an architect that he found back the way to get to his true self after moving abroad and experiencing some struggles and some difficulties in his life. Pay attention because he was chasing a false definition of success, and I know many people have done that before. After he woke up and realized this, he went on a personal development journey. He became dedicated to inspiring others to be true to themselves also and to awaken to the inner genius that lies within every single one of us. There is a message here for you already.
Tibor is a mindset coach. He’s certified as an Erickson Professional Coach and he’s the Founder of Mindset Horizon, which is a coaching and a personal development company. They foster transformation through mindset, transforming digital content as well as coaching services. He also has his own podcast called The Mindset Horizon Podcast. We’re here to find out, how do you pursue your passion? How do you live your meaningful life and how do you make this transition? Tibor, welcome. It’s good to have you.
Terri, thank you so much for having me. I’m excited to provide value to your wonderful audience.
I’m excited to be with you because along this journey, I met many people who’ve changed their careers to somewhat mildly, you changed dramatically. You’re an architect. What occurs to you that’s like, “No, this isn’t what my life purpose is?” How did that happen for you?
Yeah, it’s an interesting journey. As I reflect back on this, one word I can tell you is curiosity. As an architect, I was always curious about things. I remember at the university, I was curious about architecture, how it’s connected to design and all these philosophical architects, these big thinkers, I was always attracted to those people. After university, as I was chasing the definition of success which for me, I was born in Hungary and later on, I moved out to Germany to work there as an architect. My biggest problem was after university working as an architect, I found that I wasn’t earning the money that I thought I should earn because architects and engineers were underpaid in Hungary. I thought to myself as I learned two foreign languages, German and English, it meant freedom for me learning languages and having this idea of moving abroad. I decided to move abroad to work there as an architect, I started to earn the money that I wanted and I could afford anything to myself.
I reached a point in my life where I saw that earning more money won’t bring happiness or fulfillment in my life and I felt that I wasn’t fulfilled. All this curiosity that was with me in the university was gone in my professional life as an architect. I landed in a technical field. I was working as a civil engineer than an architect. I wasn’t in design, but it was more about technical engineering. I was a sales support engineer and later on the project manager, responsible for my country here in Austria, responsible for Hungary. That was an exciting position and work, but I wasn’t fulfilled. I started to think about it in the long run. I didn’t know too much about coaching, but I asked myself, “How do I see myself 1 year from now, 5 years from now? Do I see myself working for this company in the long run, doing this activity that I do?” My answer was, “No.”
Observing my colleagues also in my work environment, 40-year-old people who were doing the same after many years, I thought to myself, “I don’t want to do this. I need to find another path.” This is how I started this personal development journey. My desire back then was, because I felt in the corporate environment, I couldn’t reach my full potential, I was in this box of a position doing this certain type of activity, but I felt I was not reaching my full potential. I embarked upon this personal development journey and my first idea was, I want to start my own business, which means it was all about bringing the best out of myself, being flexible, being free and doing this stuff. As I went deeper into this entrepreneurial journey, I got interested in the personal development aspect of becoming an entrepreneur, becoming successful, what success means, what happiness is, and this is how I got interested and curious about the personal development aspect of it.
This is great information. I had owned several of my own businesses and then I went into Corporate America for a few years. I was president of a national healthcare company making a lot of money with stock options and bonuses and all that stuff. One day, I realized, “Who cares?” I didn’t feel fulfilled. I didn’t feel aligned with my passion. I stumbled upon coaching. I met somebody on a plane. They’re a coach, and I’m like, “That’s what I’m supposed to do.” I quit my job, and I’ve been doing this for years. What I say to people that want to try this on is, no matter what you’re doing, whatever job, whatever it is, if you’re missing that inner joy, that to me is, take notice and is your wakeup call. That sounds similar to what happened to you, is that true?
I agree, 100%. What’s important here to mention is that when I embarked upon this idea of creating my own business and reality, I felt that I need to know myself more because I wanted to create something in the long run. I was definitely thinking in the long run. I found that I need to know myself more, which is the personal development aspect of it and need to know more about my values, who I am. I started to reflect and get clear on my values and some of them I already mentioned, freedom, flexibility, growth, for example, learning. I was always fascinated by learning. I wanted to develop myself all the time. I thought to myself, “Coaching and personal development, this is the never-ending path. I can learn for the rest of my life and never get to the end of it.”
We picked coaching. You picked coaching and I picked coaching. How did you figure out, “I’m going to go down the path of mindset?” Why did you choose the mindset?
My bigger purpose is to inspire people and show them that there are always possibilities. I was asking myself, “What gets in the way, most of the time, that people are struggling with transitioning where they have this fear of changing? What gets in the way?” That was my question. I figured our mind gets in the way a lot of times because the brain’s number one priority is to keep us safe, to prevent us from the change that can mean potential threats, for example. The mind and mindset are important. I usually talk about values, purpose and passion but the mind gets in the way a lot of times and it can be fear, limiting beliefs, something that is even unconscious and you are not aware of those things.Most of the time, we have beliefs based on our limited past experiences. Click To Tweet
I always tell people, “The first step is the awareness part, that you reflect on your behaviors and you become a little bit more aware of what you do, how you do, how you feel, different kinds of things.” This was my answer to your question that this could be important, I want to focus on this. I was fascinated by these new findings of neuroscience and new research that are coming out about neuroplasticity and all these things. We can change our brain and become a new person whenever we want.
That’s a path that I’m interested in as well. I’m a clinical psychologist also as well as a coach and I’ve been studying the human brain for years. The human brain hits me. What is always amazing to me, whenever I start with a client family member, I specialize in business and business growth and they want actions, they come to me and they’re like, “What do I have to do to grow my business and make more money?” I’m like, “We’re going to work on mindset.” They’re like, “What? Why are we working on mindset?” We start with mindset because the basis of everything that happens comes from mindset. I love that you’re doing this work. If someone is following us here at Heartrepreneur and saying, “I wonder if I need a mindset coach. I wonder if Tibor can help me.” Who is an ideal client family member for you?
It can be used in different areas. For example, one is when someone is transitioning from a completely different field to a new one and they want to become entrepreneurs. This is one case when I work with people on mindset and in that case, I usually work on vision a lot. Values, vision, and also mindset and strategies, actions are important, all these things together. When we work only on mindset, it’s rather someone who’s already a business owner and they might want to scale their business, scale their impact, they want to reach higher numbers, figures and the mind gets in the way. Limiting beliefs, they don’t believe in themselves. “I don’t believe that it’s possible,” and so on and so forth. Most of the time, we have these beliefs based on past experiences and what we have achieved in the past which is limited in the past.
By the way Tibor, how can people connect with you? What is the best way that they can connect and find out more? I want to make sure that they have that ability.
What’s the best advice that you can give someone who is reading and who’s saying, “I’m not that fulfilled. I might want to make a change.” They have some fear about becoming a business owner and following their passion. What advice would you give to them?
The advice I would give is to believe in yourself and believe that anything is possible. You need to decide what you want. You have to come up with a vision, you need to work on that, you need to decide and then work on your mindset and you can achieve whatever you want.
I agree with that. It’s been amazing to me to watch different people on the journey, whether they’re my client’s family members, friends or family. I watch people and who is achieving the things that they want, whether it’s in their personal life or their business life or with relationships or communication, whatever it is, and everything comes from mindset. I’d like to share an example with our audience. I was sharing with someone that I was able to shed a tremendous amount of weight in only six weeks by following an easy, effortless program and they said, “What did you have to do?” I told them and they said, “I’m not strong enough to do that.” I said, “There’s no strength needed. It’s here.”
It’s simply saying, “Is this important to me? Yes, it is.” My mindset was, for six weeks, “I will follow this. I will be successful. I will achieve my goals.” Easy, effortless, and it happened. I find it interesting whether we’re talking business or relationships or finance or whatever we’re talking, everything that people want to achieve comes from here. There is, as far as I’m concerned, no more important foundation than mindset. The work that Tibor has done is important. We said something in your introduction about awakening your inner genius. For someone who is reading and going, “I don’t know if I have inner genius.” What would you say to that?
There’s this definition of self-actualizing people and I strongly believe that we are capable of things that we cannot even believe. We need to reconnect with our deepest self, which is the higher self and this is the inner genius that is limitless and is connected to everything. It’s not what you have accomplished or where you’re from or what you have done or what other people think of you. It’s all about this inner, higher self that you can connect to anytime you want. When I do this is normally when I meditate in the morning or sometimes in the evening, this is when I connect with my higher self and it’s completely dissociated from who I am in this environment. It’s a higher self, this is the inner genius.
I’m glad that you said that, inner genius, higher self. You mentioned some things that you do in your personal life that I do something similar. Every single morning I wake up early because it’s quiet, there’s no one to interrupt or disturb me. I sit, I meditate. I set some daily intentions and I tune in to me. Can you give people a tip for maybe a good way to start the day?
The way I usually start my day, a good way is meditating. In the morning or in the evening, this is the time when your brain is normally in the alpha state, in the lower brain wave state. You get into alpha and theta state more easily in the morning or in the evening, that’s why I do the meditation in the morning. There are different kinds of meditations. What I like is the creative visualization during meditation, which is I visualize myself in a particular moment. I can decide which moment, sometimes it’s in the near future, sometimes its years from now me talking on stage in front of hundreds of people, but you can visualize yourself in different situations.Believe in yourself and that anything is possible. You just need to decide what you really want. Click To Tweet
There are two ways I do it. There’s this way when I dissociate myself from the picture and I look at myself from an outer point of view and I see my whole body, for example, on the stage and I look at myself. This is a silent picture from an outside point of view, then I step into the picture and this is when I experience that situation. When I’m talking on stage, I can hear people around me, I can see, smell and feel. This is when you get to feel the experience and this way, you have a thought and an experience, a feeling which creates another state of being. I get inspired when I have these meditations. It’s a little bit visualization, it’s not just focusing on the present moment. I start with focusing on my breath so I can be present and then I start the visualization process and I have this thought and feeling together, which shifts my state and I get inspired normally. It’s a great way to start the day motivated.
There are many different ways to meditate. Sometimes people go, “I’ve tried it. I can’t meditate.” I had tried meditation for years and I was like, “I’m focusing on my breath and that didn’t seem to work.” I tried all these different meditative programs. One day, I was walking and all of a sudden as I was walking, realizing, “I’ve been in a meditative state.” It’s the first time and I wasn’t consciously going, “Meditate.” I also will use creative visualization quite a bit because I enjoy it and it keeps my brain active and I have a lot of thoughts that way that work in my business and in my life. I’m going to say to our audience, there’s no right way to meditate, there’s the way that works for you, and having even a few minutes a day of that peace, quiet, and centered breathing. What happens in our lives, and see if you agree with me, Tibor, is we get busy and there’s so much stuff going on that we forget about ourselves. When we start to get present and quiet our minds, that’s how we reclaim who we are. Do you agree with that?
Here we are, you’ve made this transition which I love. Here you are as an architect, you wake up and you figure out what your inner genius is and you’re helping other people do the same. Tell us a little bit about The Mindset Horizon Podcast. When people tune into that, where do we find it? When do we tune into that? What kind of guests do you have? What are we going to learn?
People can find it on my website under the page podcast and on iTunes and everywhere where podcasts can be found. The main topic that we deconstruct in the podcast is the belief system and the mindset of disruptive entrepreneurs who think outside the box. Normally, I invite coaches, change-makers, but also entrepreneurs who have this conscious awareness of their path. Becoming not just successful but creating the life that serves their life’s purpose, they feel that, “This is what I wanted. I’m fulfilled.” We talk about these things. We talk about a lot of things, mainly mindset, belief systems, but also passion, purpose, curiosity, all these things that I also experienced and other people can experience and have experienced.
It’s worth tuning in to. MindsetHorizon.com and The Mindset Horizon Podcast and I do suggest that you tune in. I believe that when you listen to podcasts, you also want to listen vicariously, “What can I extract from that interview?” As we’re here and we’re talking to Tibor, “What has he said?” Take a moment and reflect yourself, what is it he said that perhaps you needed to hear? Is there something I said that you needed to hear? How can you live vicariously through us? If you just listen and you go back to your regularly scheduled life, nothing changes. What can you do to change? One thing you can do is go to MindsetHorizon.com and you can make a connection.
You can also follow the podcast, Mindset Horizon. You can see if there’s something that we said that you need to take action on, whether it’s meditating, slow down, breathe. Get honest with yourself is the work that I’m doing, it’s what I want to do. I remember coming to this point in my life where I woke up one day and thought, “Is this all there is to life? Going to work at a job every day, helping this company to make more money and going home or is there more?” That was my wakeup call. Is there a particular question that woke you up by any chance?
My question was, “What do I want? What do I want to experience?” At that time, I was focusing on my career so I was unfulfilled where I was working. My question was, “What do I want and who do I want to become?” I had this vision of me, “Who do I want to become in the long run?” Interestingly enough, I saw myself writing a book. I imagined myself 20, 30 years from now, what is the profession that is worth living this life, focusing on for the rest of my life and I saw myself as a thought leader, as someone who was talking, who is writing, and this some vision. A vision doesn’t have to be specific all the time, chunking down when you have goals, it can be specific but these are feelings and flushes. I was contemplating that idea, “What if I am 60 years old, what am I doing? Do I retire and that was it? Do I travel the world? What do I want to do?”
What do I want to do? Who do I want to become? Those are such good questions, I recommend it not only to our audience, write them down. I recommend that you start right there thinking about, “Where am I in my life now?” Future pacing, taking a look at 1, 5, or 10 years from now. I started years ago in coaching and I remember writing in a journal and saying, “I want to travel the world and make an impact. I want to speak on stages all over the world. I want to write best-selling books.” Friends would say to me, “Terri, how are you going to do that?” I wanted to say, “I don’t know.” I know I can see it, I can feel it. It’s an interesting one up, it’s what I want to do and it’s who I want to become. Within a year, I had written a best-selling book, I was speaking on stages all over the world and all of those things come to be. You’ve got to start with a vision and so I know you’re starting well. Let’s tell people one more time where and how they can connect with you.
The best way to connect with me is my website, MindsetHorizon.com. They can find me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. They can find the links on my website.
First of all, I want to thank you so much for being a guest on the show. You’ve added much incredible value. Thank you for coming.
Thank you for having me.We are capable of things that we cannot even believe. We just need to reconnect with our higher self. Click To Tweet
You’re welcome. I want to chat with our audience for a moment. I don’t care what you’re doing. I don’t care what your profession is. I don’t care what your income is. I don’t care what your success level is. I do care about what Tibor discussed which is finding your true self. Take a moment and get honest with yourself. What is it that you’re chasing? What is your definition of success? Is it money? Does it have a lot more material things? Is it something else? For me, it was having more of an impact, making a big difference, having a lot more fun, a lot more freedom in my life, and a lot more connection.
The next question to ask isn’t how to do that, which is what many people think, “I’ve got to discover the how.” It’s, “Who will I be when I make this change?” For example, when I was in Corporate America, I was being someone that wasn’t authentic. I was being someone who was running a company that I didn’t care about, that was about the bottom line and was transactional. I started our conversation by talking about the concept of Heartrepreneur, and Heartrepreneur is truly what we’re talking about here.
It’s figuring out who you are in your heart, what you want to do in the world that’s going to make a difference coming from your heart and then creating that most amazing best life. Tibor said we all have an inner genius and awakening is key. A couple of reminders as we exit, you want to follow The Mindset Horizon Podcast. Definitely, I strongly recommend that you go over to MindsetHorizon.com, you make a connection with Tibor and go back and reread this blog because there were a lot of gems that he gave us. Tibor, thank you for being a guest here. It’s been a pleasure.
Thank you for having me.
You are most welcome.
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About Tibor Nagy
He is a Mindset Coach, certified as an Erickson Professional Coach, and the founder of Mindset Horizon – a coaching and personal development company that fosters transformation through mindset transforming digital content and coaching services.
To make an even bigger impact and inspire the masses he decided to create his own interview show – The Mindset Horizon Podcast – where he interviews high-performers, visionaries, and changemakers who reveal their secrets of what it takes to have a disruptive mindset, pursue a passion, and live a meaningful life with purpose.
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