When people come to workshops and seminars, they have the best intentions to learn, to grow, and to implement what they learned. However, when they get back to their day to day life, unfortunately, life tends to take over and a lot of people forget what they learned. They forget to implement or they implement very little. Bestselling author and founder of the One Minute Coach educational system Masha Malka says it’s a shame because they invest all this time, money, and effort and then didn’t do much with that. Masha started sending short messages to my workshop participants and clients, which she called the One Minute Coach because she thought everybody can find one minute just to be reminded about something new to learn and exactly how they can apply it. Masha says there’s always a reminder, information, and action steps that they can take based on that particular bit of information. Discover how you can learn the One Minute Coach way as Masha talks about the process she developed and taking action based on the knowledge that we receive.
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The One Minute Coach with Masha Malka
My guest is Masha Malka. She’s defied the odds throughout her life, leaving the only life and country she had known. Her life turned upside down when her family fled the Soviet Union when Masha was seventeen. Fast forward over three decades and she shows through example what’s possible with the right mindset, action and commitment. Masha is the bestselling author and founder of the One Minute Coach educational system. She’s worked as an executive coach for over fifteen years and has a Master’s Degree in Higher Education. She did all that while raising three children. Her book, The One Minute Coach to Mastering Your Emotions, one of her newest, is fast becoming a favorite with those who are ready to be the best they can be without letting their emotions hold them back. Let’s get started. Masha, welcome.
Thank you so much for the introduction. I’m happy to be here with you.
I’m excited to meet you. I tried to put myself in your shoes and try to even think, if I was seventeen years old and we’d left the country. What are things that as you look back on that, come up for you and what are some of the lessons that you learned?
It’s quite difficult to describe the emotion when you’re leaving everything behind. By everything, I don’t mean material possessions which we have to leave behind. We were only allowed to take a small suitcase per person and $80 per person. Most importantly I had to say goodbye to the family that remained there and to my friends because it was still Soviet Union. Nobody could predict at that time that the wall would come down and the borders would open up. At that time we were leaving, we said goodbye forever and that was quite difficult to imagine unless you’ve experienced it. We were going to America, that was still during the Cold War, so the propaganda, and all the information that I got growing up in Soviet Union was extremely negative. Quite similar to what the American people got about the Soviet Union. I was leaving everything behind and I was going into something that to me was a very scary place to go to. It was tough.
As you’re even talking about it, I can’t imagine it. What are the things that you’ve learned because obviously you’ve learned a lot regarding mindset, action, commitment? What are some of the biggest lessons that you learned that maybe you can share with us?
Some of the lessons I would say is I knew that we’re never given a challenge in life that we don’t have the tools to overcome it. No matter how difficult it might seem at the moment and how much you might want to feel like there’s no hope or there’s no way, there’s always a way. That’s very important to remember. The good things about challenges are first, it’s what makes life much more interesting. Secondly, when you do overcome those challenges, you are then prepared, you have those tools and even more tools to prepare you later in life. Me going through this tough time and the huge change that I experienced at seventeen made it so much easier in my life to deal with any change thrown to me. It just goes like, “Piece of cake. I’ve done that before.” In that sense, it’s always good to keep in mind when you’re dealing with and we’re always dealing with some challenges. That’s the main lesson I learned from that.Feel good and feel bad because all emotions are very important and we should not run away from them or block them. Click To Tweet
I love the concept of The One Minute Coach Educational System. How did that come to be? How did that come out? Where did that come from?
My background is in education, it’s my master’s degree. I’ve been teaching most of my life. What I noticed when people would come to workshops and seminars and have this best intentions to learn, to grow and to implement what they learned but then when they get back to their day to day life, unfortunately, life tends to take over. A lot of people forget what they learned, and they forget to implement or maybe they implement very little. It’s a shame because you invest all this time, money and effort and then didn’t do much with that. I started sending this short messages to my workshop participants and clients, which I call The One Minute Coach because I didn’t want it to take more than a minute out of their already busy lives and I thought everybody can find one minute just to be reminded about something new to learn and exactly how they can apply it. There’s always a reminder, information and action steps that they can take based on that particular bit of information.
Nowadays, information does not have a lot of value, knowledge is not power anymore. What’s power is taking action based on the knowledge that we receive, that is power. It’s knowing what to do with all this information that comes our away. That’s why I always try to make it as easy as possible and as quick as possible. Fast forwarding a little bit, I was sending out these messages and it became a newsletter, lots of people subscribed to it. After a couple of years people started asking me to put it in a book. I majored in mathematics but on the other hand, I like to make it easy for people, so I said, “Let’s put it in the book because it’s easier then to find what they’re looking for.” Since my book came out, two more people in the world started to believe in miracles, my mother and me.
I was far away from being a writer, but these days I love writing. That was my first book, which I named, The One Minute Coach: Changed Your Life One Minute at a Time, because it was a compilation of this one minute messages, its action steps and images. I used accelerated learning techniques which deals with whole brain learning and the skill of learning. I’m making series of books under The One Minute Coach umbrella. In all my books, we are using this system that each chapter takes about a minute, left hand side this information, right hand side action steps, and then image. You can use it as a reference guide. You can open it up on a new page. People have found that very effective. They love that format.
Out of curiosity, on my Facebook business page and in my Facebook Heartrepreneurs with Terri Levine group, I started to do one-minute videos. I would say this is a one-minute video because people are busy and don’t watch the whole thing. I started to get so much feedback on how much people appreciated that. It was like, “This was great. This was short enough for me to watch.” You get the point and move away from. I’m sitting here going, “I’m doing something right. Thank you for telling me that.” I also resonated with what you said, Masha, power is action based on the information we receive. Sometimes people take in information, they get all this education, and they don’t do anything, and you have to take action on it. For me, whole brain learning, accelerated learning is what has guided me and moved me forward.
I’m looking for experts in their fields to make a series of The One Minute Coach books on different subjects.
Out of The One Minute Coach books to date, what’s like the big favorite? What’s the one people seem to resonate with the most so far?
My latest book is getting a lot of incredible feedback. It’s the one you mentioned, The One Minute Coach to Mastering Your Emotions and it’s my favorite as well. It takes complicated concepts that talk about how everything is connected and how our emotions affect our health, how the pain is often a product or sub-product of certain emotions or thoughts that we’re thinking, and how thoughts affect our emotion. It takes all this complicated things and how it’s all energy and puts it in a way that is very easy for people to follow, understand, take action, and implement. I talk about feel good emotions and feel bad emotions.
I also give specific tools on how people can understand, learn from, release emotions that they don’t want to feel anymore and how they can increase feeling the emotions they would like to feel. I don’t say this one’s a bad emotion or this one’s good, I say feel good and feel bad because all emotions are very important. We should not run away from them or block them because then they still control us. The idea is to become friends with emotions. We see them as something that comes into our life to teach us lessons and to guide us. Again, our bodies are also playing a big role in that. It’s a very fascinating topic and I think everybody should understand that because people when they don’tunderstand something, they tend to block it or run away from it or get scared of emotions and that’s not very productive.
I do talk to my clients about the inner work all the time. I say to my client, family members, “We all have emotions. We all have feelings and we need to become more conscious of those. Whatever they are, if it’s sadness, if it’s anger, go into it, feel it.” I like how you said, “Be friends with your emotions.” I never heard that language that way. Go into it, feel the feeling and allow it. Don’t try and chase it away or sweep it under the rug, that doesn’t help us in our own lives. Anything else you want to say on this topic that would allow people even more access or information to some of the key points that you share?
The most important thing to understand about emotions is that you are not your emotions. Also the language that you use, and I’m sure you use that a lot in the neuro-linguistic program, the language, how we speak to ourselves is extremely important. Rather than saying, “I am angry or I am sad or I’m depressed or even I’m happy. I feel angry. I feel sad. I feel irritated,” or whatever it might be. When you changed that from “I Am” to “I feel,” subconsciously, you immediately separate yourself from the emotions which puts you in control. That means that if you are not your emotions and the emotions is something that just happens to be there temporarily, that you have to experience temporarily, you have the ability to continue feeling it or stop feeling it. It puts you in control and when you have that control, then what you need to do is learn the tools and understand the tools on how to release those emotions. You should get my book for that.When you change I am to I feel, subconsciously, you immediately separate yourself from the emotions which puts you in control. Click To Tweet
A couple of key points, you said you are not your emotions, I couldn’t agree with you more. In neuro-linguistic programming, it is important for us to notice our self-talk. I had a client, a client family member said, “I am so angry. I am so angry.” I said, “No, you are not.”She said, “No, I am.” I said, “No, you are feeling anger. You’re choosing anger and that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with that. Just be conscious and get that you’re a human being at choice. No one makes you feel anything. Be responsible and it’s okay. If you choose to feel that emotion, feel that, but the emotion is not you.” You said it so brilliantly.
I was having the same conversation with my client, also referring to anger.
Tell us how can people find you, connect with you, where can we get your books because I think that would be hugely valuable?
The best place to go to my website, which is a MashaMalka.com. Once you get to my homepage you will be able to download a free eBook, which is basically a compilation of a few chosen chapters from the Mastering Emotions book, it’s free for your audience and you will get an idea of what I’m talking about, the way it is structured. Then there would be a link for you to purchase the book if you like what you’re reading. Also on the same website and if you’re interested to schedule a talk with me about coaching, there’s also way to do that.
How generous that we can download the free eBook. We can get a sample and we can decide to get more, which I hope all of my audience will. Masha, thank you so much for joining me.
Terri, I was looking forward to this interview and I enjoyed it. Thank you very much for having me. Have a wonderful day.
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About Masha Malka
Masha Malka has defied the odds throughout her life. Leaving the only life, and country, she had known, Masha Malka’s life turned upside down when her family fled the Soviet Union when Masha was 17. Fast forward over three decades and Masha shows, through example, what’s possible with the right mindset, action and commitment.Masha is the best-selling author and founder of The One Minute Coach™ educational system. She has worked as an executive coach for over 15 years and earned her Master’s Degree in Higher Education while raising three children.Her newest book, The One Minute Coach™ To Mastering Your Emotions is fast becoming a favorite with those who are ready to be the best they can be without letting their emotions hold them back.